About Charm

I am lucky to be acquainted with some charming people (few but many enough). I don’t mean simply attractive. Attractiveness is something like gravitation: it is not selective. Charm is much more complicated and I will explain here what I actually mean.

Concerning charm itself, I would classify it in direct and transitional.

Direct charm is exercised by the object itself. A person, a musical work, a mathematical theory or any idea can enchant someone. In this case, the subject is very much responsible; namely the ability of discovering and perceiving special properties creates those fertile conditions for the charm.

The second kind of charm (the transitional) needs a mediating person that is already enchanted. This person does not try to persuade us about the excellence of the object that enchanted it; it simply lives it (or better, “for it” and “from it”). This duality is exactly that, which functions charming for an other person.

The mediating person, the medium in other words, functions in this case like a representation of the object that enchanted it. It operates like a soundboard that amplifies the initial vibration. It is a demonstration of the real value of the enchanting object. Because of this, the transitional charm is much more stronger than the direct one.

Watching such people speaking or acting in general is always exciting. Their enchantment (not themselves) invites us to watch the wonders of their world. It is a true inspiration, because it supplies the spirit that makes one feel alive.

This triangle of terms (the object, the medium and the newcomer) is a form of initiation. The object is something that exists but is not initially perceived, either because the attention is drawn to other objects or because higher capabilities and knowledge are demanded. The crossing to this perception is activated by the medium person, that is already there.

As I indicated above, the charm cannot be exercised in conditions of persuading. It requires the freedom of selection (axiom of choice! ;) ) It requires the sensibility of the observer as well. The finer the glance, the higher the probability of being charmed (or repulsed).

Also the factor “time” is here of great importance. Characterizing someone or something as “charming” cannot be done from the first moment of contact. Properties like this need the participation of the mind, till the critical mass of data has been processed.

And what about the persons who live their charm and charm the others? Are they charming as well?

The answer is “yes”. I would dare to say “more charming than in the charm of the first order (the direct one)”. Their reference escapes from their personal boundaries, thus giving them a property that is independent of form and time.

2 Responses to “About Charm”

  1. Harti Law says:

    Charmed! Bewitched! Enchanted (in French)! What does all that mean? That some supernatural form of influence is bestowed upon us. And how about enchantment with oneself? Where might that lead? “I am the strongest, the biggest, the baddest, the meanest, the bestest!” And, a few moments later: “Tu quoque, Brute, fili mi?”

  2. Maestro says:

    @ Harti Law

    Looking for beauty – you narcissist megalomaniac – in yourself? Won’t find it!

    @ a_droseltis

    Medium – you mean like groopie who cheers for singing star?